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Resetting The Rules

Posted by Joseph Riggio on Wednesday, September 20, 2006

Reality, Relationships, Relating and Relativity ... the things of our lives ...

Hey Folks,

Sorry about the hiatus ... but I was out of town for a bit doing a gig in Copenhagen with Henrik Wenoe at Acuity World, "EPC - Exquisite Performance Coaching" - which was a blast. I only deliver this program in the 2-day format I presented in Denmark with Acuity World. The trick this time around however was that I flew out Friday night for the training on Saturday and Sunday (I landed on Saturday morning), then out again early Monday morning back to the good old U.S. of A. Then yesterday I was in class all day (Tuesdays I teach at Parson's - part of the New School University - in the Design and Management program) ... anyway that all put me off my blog writing for a few days.

Now ... I'm Back! ... and I can share with you some of what I've been up to and have learned as a result. I've really been thinking about two or three things and how they all go together lately ... well maybe even four things:

  • First, I've been considering the idea of how we construct the realities we occupy and operate within.

  • I don't believe we ever quite get to REALITY in capitals so to speak, instead we construct a unique model of reality based on our inter-subjective experience and personal perceptions.

  • Next, I've been considering how we interact with others and produce our outcomes.

  • I've also been thinking about how we integrate our use of language with this idea of constructing realities and interacting with others.

  • And, finally I've been considering the concepts of complexity and chaos in terms of how they impact and effect our experience.

    • I want to take that last point first ... the ideas of complexity and chaos. The mechanism I often find myself using when I'm working with clients has to do with the consideration of these ideas as they apply to what people find themselves experiencing in an ongoing way. Essentially, my experience in working with clients has been that they experience their lives as intricate and complex - many things happening, all intertwined and often colliding together simultaneously. The most complex things of all often have to do with their interactions with others - making sense of the varieties of perception, interaction and relationship. I've found for myself mostly this comes down to my ability to communicate well.

    The way I'd refer to all of this together would be in regard to what I call social reality ... the way we construct shared realities together ... the inter-subjective realm. So I put a lot of attention on this topic over the weekend. I've put a lot of attention on various ways that we construct these realities. As we begin to consider the Universe in terms of it being a complex system it becomes more obvious that we are always best to recognize the interrelationships that are present. Another way of referring to this would be in terms of considering the whole-form of the system in its entirety.

    This single adjustment can make a world of difference ... considering the entirety of our experience in whole-form instead of in terms of the separate components that comprise it. Yet, the capacity to operate in relation to the entirety of our experience instead of attempting to address the individual components of our lives takes some learning and practice.

    It can be remarkable to experience the whole-form in its entirety for the first time after having spent the majority of a lifetime thinking in terms of fragmentation and separation. I find it interesting that from the beginning of our education we are largely trained to think in terms of fragmentation and separation. Now as we begin to consider and take control of our personal evolution we find that we must disengage from what we've learned and even how we've learned to learn.

    So now that I'm back I'll begin to share a bit more about what I've been thinking about this intersection between constructing realities, interacting with others, integrating language and the nature of chaos and complexity ... and I hope that you find my musings as interesting to read I have found considering them myself to be.

    Joseph Riggio, Ph.D.
    Princeton, NJ

    You've still got some time to get the information and participate in the Beyond Hypnosis ... program in the UK with John LaValle and I ... but don't take too long to think about it this opportunity comes but once every few years ...

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