Howdy …
Today I’m going to reveal what may be my greatest professional frustration …
This is a more or less unusual post for me … more like one of my “Riggio’s Rants” (if you’re not getting these you can sign up to receive them using the form at the top of the page here: Blognostra). Today I’m going to break every marketing rule there is to demonstrate how they are designed to appeal to the lowest common denominator amongst us all.
It’s frackin’ shocking when people come to me what they “expect” from our work together. It doesn’t really matter if they come to me personally for Private Work … or they come to a Program … or they are a member of one of my Private Access membership programs like UA Carbon … or maybe they attend some special event I’m running.
What people expect from the work they do with me is … something they don’t have!!!
How the heck can I possibly offer what a person doesn’t have to them??? What am I G-d???
I mean come on folks, how long will you fall for this basic B— S— from the marketing community out there … starting with Madison Avenue and the political pundits and pollsters???
Here’s the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth …
No one can give you what you don’t already have …
only you can take it if you want it and it’s available.
Okay let’s step back together a moment …
For about five or seven years now I’ve been trying to figure out how to make what I do more accessible to folks (like you), because my advisors keep telling me, “Joseph you have a great message … BUT you need to make it more accessible … people need this message, and you need to increase readership!”
Now frankly what that has translated into from my point of view (very limited POV indeed) is …
- A) DDTM (Dumb Down The Message) … make it available in 140 characters or less and don’t use any polysyllabic words because the intelligence and attention span of the “average” Internet user/reader won’t tolerate it
- B) MIT (Make It Trivial) … insure that you don’t suggest anything that folks don’t already know and/or are comfortable with today, any challenge to the existing beliefs of your readers and potential customers/clients will be punished
- C) PROLR (Post Regularly Or Lose Readership) … it’s all a numbers game, quantity over quality at all costs, get the sheep in the corral and keep them there, then eventually they’ll buy your message and your “stuff” … e.g.: “Know, Trust & Like” equals income … to do this you have to give them what they want and expect, and consistency ranks up there at the top of the list, so for G-d’s sake get something in front of them as often as possible before they forget and abandon you for the next reality T.V. episode!!!
- D) UIMT (Use Internet Marketing Techniques) … e.g.: explain the entire premise/offer in the headline of 17 words or less, because 99% of your readers won’t get any further than that, use bullet points frequently because readers are PowerPoint trained and like to capture all their fundamental learning in bullet point formats, make sure you hype the message to make it exciting … because information isn’t valuable unless it’s exciting, ideally put your message in the format of a video game where the reader can get points for just being on your site … and of course use acronyms for everything, like KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid)
Now, to be sure, not every guru I speak with or get advice from has said this “exactly” like that … but you can be assured some aspect of that list above is in the conversation … and FWIW I’ve discovered they’re right … if you want “readership.”
BUT I’M MAD AS HELL AND I WON’T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!
So, here’s the next instruction for you …
If you want to be more entertained than educated, if you care more about what I can do for you than you can do for yourself, if having your cherished beliefs intact means more to you than having the life you desire, if you are unwilling or unable to take the truth … than STOP READING NOW, delete yourself from the RSS feed of this blog, unsubscribe from Riggio’s Rants and move on with your life “AS IS” … ’cause I’m not pandering to the lowest common denominator any more … even if it means I have to start flipping burgers to pay the rent.
———— LONG PAUSE ————
So, you decided to ignore my advice and continue reading anyway … well congratulations, I guess …
Here’s the thing … for years I’ve been what my teacher, mentor and friend Roye Fraser anointed me long ago, “a one-trick pony” … really I have only one trick (if you haven’t already caught my “trick” than either go back through the archives or keep reading at your own risk).
I don’t really want to give anyone anything or offer anything to anyone I work with … except a remarkable clarity of their own.
My “trick” is about first revealing you to you and then from that position helping you get what that means about everything else.
You see “it’s all in there … put your nose up against the glass” and you’ll see for yourself what’s to be seen. When you shift the fundamental operating position you perceive the world from, you shift everything. I call this position your “ontological bias” (see I’m breaking all the rules … I used both a polysyllabic word and one that’s likely to be unfamiliar to a large percentage of my audience … and I told you to stop reading, delete the RSS feed and unsubscribe so if you don’t like F–K Off!)
Now this isn’t a “training” blog where I’m about to tell you HOW TO CHANGE your ontological bias. What I will do though is tell you WHY TO CHANGE your ontological bias, and why that’s so damn important to you.
Let’s keep it simple …
It’s remarkably unlikely your ontological bias is your own … you’re most likely to be living from an ontological bias that’s been foisted on you, installed in you and sustained from the time you were born …
The most important thing you can possibly realize is that it isn’t yours!!!
This part of the situation isn’t your fault. Really. This occurred before you even had a mind of your own. While you were busy growing a brain, the world was busy installing a mind into it for you … and that still not an excuse to keep it or use it.
What you need isn’t simply a “New Mind” but a BIGGER MIND … one that reaches beyond anything you’re likely to have been taught … and breaks the boundaries of what you were taught you should be reaching for as well!
The way your mind was installed into you wasn’t just purely a function of WHAT YOU LEARNED, but it was more a function of HOW YOU LEARNED.
The learning you received seemed content driven, i.e.: facts and figures … information … stuff to learn about.
BUT … THE REAL LEARNING YOU WERE EXPOSED TO WASN’T CONTENT DRIVEN, IT WAS CONTEXTUAL … I.E.: HOW TO LEARN, WHY TO LEARN … AND WHAT’S WORTH LEARNING!
This “real learning” is what shaped and installed the mind you were forced to live with for years. Based on that “real learning” and the mind that emerged from it … the one foisted upon you … all the levers and buttons about how to move you about were and remain know … and they’re being pulled and pushed every single day of your life … until you do something different about it.
The only real choice about what to do is eject the mind that foisted upon you, installed in you and is being sustained by … everything you “know” to be true about how the world works around you.
This includes what you think is important, what you think is worthwhile striving for, how you think you should behave and respond in regard to others … essentially your entire place in and relationship with the Universe … i.e.: your entire life.
The hard truth …
You can never be truly free … if what you think freedom means is pure autonomy … i.e.: doing what you want, when you want, as you want … regardless of what others are doing around and about you.
You live in relation to others … intimately, intricately, inextricably and irrevocably … despite any protest or desire to do otherwise.
You must by default learn to interact with others successfully … whist never compromising yourself … if you want to be free to live the life you have within you, i.e.: YOUR OWN.
I call this premise simply …
“Having the experience of YOUR life.”
To do this you have to give up.
You have to give up your willingness to go with the flow … irrespective of your personal INTENT.
You have to give up what you’ve learned is “true” … e.g.: “Science has the answers … and those it doesn’t it soon will.”
You have to give up going along … WHILE YOU APPEAR TO BE GIVING IN (most of the time).
This last one may be the biggest “trick” of all because most people hate appearing “weak” or “giving in” … a well trained bias from the early days of your education. Most people actually do give in when they are under duress or coerced to do so, literally or figuratively (my favorite example … assuming the “criminal position” at the airport under the supposed duress of the TSA and their damnable scanners … next time you fly in the U.S., watch … you’ll see 99% of the folks who are asked “assume the position” … under suspicion and guilty until proven innocent … coming to our streets soon I fear).
THE NEXT STEP …
It’s always about the next step.
I only have one step … always … THE NEXT STEP.
It’s critical to remember this point …
YOU CAN ONLY TAKE THE NEXT STEP … NOT THE ONE AFTER THAT!
There you go, my only and most important “take away” point in this whole damn post.
What’s behind it are a few critical things …
1) To take the next step you have to begin by knowing where you already are now
2) To know where you are now you first have to know yourself
3) Once you know yourself you can know something about where you’re headed
4) Once you decide where you’re headed you have to be completely willing to let go of BOTH …
A) HOW YOUR GOING TO GET THERE … and
B) GETTING THERE AT ALL!
This list can be summarized in two statements …
It’s all UNCERTAIN … the only thing you can count on is just how uncertain everything really is …
The most valuable thing youcan get is NOTHING … but first you have to seek it in order to achieve it.
That’s also all I want to be doing these days … NOTHING.
I don’t want to help you grow your business.
I don’t want to help you get rich, or richer.
I don’t want to help you make your relationships better.
I don’t want to make you feel better … or worst.
What I want … and all I have to offer really … is NOTHING
(Best understood after a reading of my book, “The State of Perfection”)
When you get “NOTHING” … you can do two profound things with it …
A) Deal with uncertainty … no matter what.
B) Access your deep intuitions about who you are and how to live your life.
If those two things above aren’t enough for you, then you wasted your time reading this.
If those two things above are enough to make you happy you’ve read this … and you aren’t working with me already, you’re a fool … and I don’t tolerate fools well, so I recommend again you follow the first instruction I’ve offered above, because there’s only more of this to come from me in the future.
If you think those two things are more than enough, and your working with me now … then truly I both congratulate and commend you … because I’m going much further and much faster into this rabbit hole from now on-words … WELCOME!
Carpe Diem!!!
Joseph
Princeton, NJ
P.S. : WANNA WORK WITH ME … come to the Performance Design Workshop in NJ on 6/7 September … I’ve revamped all my fees for this year so the timing couldn’t be better for you!!!
Here’s the info:
PERFORMANCE DESIGN IN NJ 8/9 SEPTEMBER 2012
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Alexander Behrang Keshtkar says
Every time I read your posts, your book, attend a training program with you, I always end in an existential crisis. It is not pleasant working with you and I know intuitively that change is f……. hard.
Kayvon says
Thanks very much for the post. It was a breath of fresh air and a joy to read.
It is not common that I agree with something to such a high degree.
Dagfinn Reiersøl says
Wow, I don’t think we’re in Kansas any more.
t says
Hey,
I wanted everything and things I didn’t even know of when I first bumped into your work. I wanted wellbeing, I wanted success, I wanted to be kick-ass and beyond kick-ass. I wanted to be an exquisite trainer, communicator, facilitator and world class agent of ontological and somatic change.
AHHHHHHHHH I can relax. I want a billion pounds of NOTHING. I want my in-born, inherent and birthright access to my ontological bias and I want the “real learning” to be what I live inside of and through.
Oh, I already have this thanks to your offerings of NOTHING. Now I choose to live a life from my ontological bias that I started from and had learned to leave behind….buried in that place that kept it safe, alive and protected. Now it’s time to unleash me…to unleash by ontological bias that feels so good and so magnificent.
I love this posting. It has the structure of what you offer even though it’s the why answer….for those of us mataboizing this foolish wisdom it re-triggers and re-provokes the built-in success blueprint.
I’m so glad it’s only one trick..since I’ve been tracking, eating, reflecting, embodying all that I can get from your offerings of NOTHING. By the way your book was an exquisite offering of NOTHING and something.
I’m so glad you don’t follow the marketing protocol because I would of gotten something from that and something I didn’t really want, need or know that wouldn’t be useful or deeply satisfying to my ontological bias.
Keep on Keeping on Dr. of the Art of NOTHING.
This is one of my all time favorites of your expressions and provocational creations.
Best and fully into NOTHING,
T
Caren says
I bought your book from amazon. Will you ever offer a workshop in the summer? I work as a teacher committed to being present on a daily basis for my special education students. I LOVE your blogs.
Marlene Isabel Shirazi Rasmussen says
I got something in my throat reading your post, Joseph.
I remember Performance Design – 2 days in Boston a year ago. WOW! Something happend… but really can’t put an exact finger on it. Productivity and selectivity has improved significantly in my life… Thank you. Indeed worth the long trip from DK.
Another occasion, came to mind, reading this post… a sentence you said after just 1 minute of talking to you 3-4 years ago (about me making a decision) “If you want to keep on fucking up your life, you’re perfectly welcome”. It just froze in to my mind… just like this post.
A good virtual slap in the face… (you better do what you do best, right? 🙂
Shyaam says
Awesome post Dr.Riggio!!!
I get that – the best way to operate in life is in relation to nothing. In the critical things,
I have a this question!
2) To know where you are now you first have to know yourself
3) Once you know yourself you can know something about where you’re headed
I don’t know both (though I think I absolutely know #2). What can be my next step?
Thank You
Shyaam
Martin McCague says
Hi Joseph,
Are you doing a Performance Design in England soon?
De education, dat’s what I need.
Martin
Joseph says
It seems there may have been a problem with comments … if you’ve tried to comment and it didn’t work, please try once again. I look forward to reading them …
Joseph
T-dog says
Hi,
Love it. First, when I bumped or was pulled into your work I wanted to be a world-class NLP, somatic, ontological, transformational rock star. I also wanted more and beyond what I knew I wanted or things I didn’t know I wanted.
Then I got three exposures to your Nothing or my Nothing with a total of 8 days in the room with you. I also devoured your writing, audios, videos, books (dissertation and book) and devoured what your apprentices put out. The I got my cognitive nothing alsong with my soma-semantic everything.
Now I have what I wanted and more. I have the gift of all of who I inherently am and am unleashing intentionally and discovering my journey moment to moment. This is wonderful and life serving work. It’s better than any toy store or sand box.
I’m so glad you don’t follow to trick or treat marketing and that you have to and exquisitely choose your way. My way is being rocked into the world every frickn moment and I’m damm happy about it.
It’s just a beginning with every posting.
Keep on Rocking the epistemilogical structures,
T
Shyaam says
An awesome post Dr.Joseph!
I feel that the best way (or only true way) to operate is in relation to nothing. But, as pointed out, everything seems to be uncertain.
I have some doubts, from our operating bias, if everything we ‘know’ is installed by others, when we have a bigger mind, how can we know what is truly ours?
and
BUT … THE REAL LEARNING YOU WERE EXPOSED TO WASN’T CONTENT DRIVEN, IT WAS CONTEXTUAL … I.E.: HOW TO LEARN, WHY TO LEARN … AND WHAT’S WORTH LEARNING!
Does this point to our conditioning?
Thank You!
t says
Hi,
I’ll try a third time. This once must be so full of clarity that it erases other perspectives:)
First, I was one of those that was looking for everything with what you offered, better at somatic coaching, deeper skill at NLP, fuller offering of ontological coaching, mastery of all that you offer to teach others.
Of course, I got nothing and then something. I got the bluepring that I was born with, I got the skills to live from it and the capacity to hold nothing in my cognition while I consider everything and make a move for the next step.
Your work is invaluable so I’m glad you don’t distill it to the KISS. What’s on offer here is so robuts, so broad that any definition only captures by a smaller representation of what the actual experience provides. Keep the intelligent description and full characterization going.
I’m looking forward to the 103 postin.
Best and beyond,
T
Alain says
Keep the polysyllabic words 🙂 They are clearer, in fact I must say that you are one of the most elegant writer I read… ( Even though I am still challenged by the meaning of the word *adumbration*, I am kept in my shadow here ). For the marketing, well, I must say that even though I aknowledge what you said… too many times it worked with me [sigh] ! Desesperate souls in the land of the easy results …