Or … The Gravesian Way To Making A Great Living As A Coach/Consultant/Trainer … Okay … the idea of the Venn Diagram showing this particular intersection isn’t mine, but the commentary around it is … Let’s take a closer look together … shall we? [NOTE: I originally wrote this as a post on my blog where I've been talking the Graves Model for years. This model identifies what most drives perceptual, decision-making and behavioral responses that people default to generally, all other things being equal. The fundamental point here is that unconscious values drive responses. When you can recognize how your values shape your responses, and the way values shape the responses that others make, you can make choices that serve you more powerfully in your business. It's not so important to try to master the Graves Model, as to get the underlying values that form business decisions that shape a business' outcomes.] Most of the build your coaching business Continue Reading
Seeing Wholeness
The Key To Transformational Embodiment About 30 years ago I began searching for the universal ”skeleton key” to transformational change. By the mid-1990s I had come to the conclusion that the ”key” to transformational change was part of what I began calling the somatic ground of being ... embodiment ... the foundation of ontological experience and awareness. This led to an approach using somatic interventions to instigate ontological transformation. I remember sitting in the “Hypnotorium” with Roye at the front doing something with someone, a piece of profound transformational hypnosis. This is very different from what many think of as hypnosis, i.e.: “You are getting sleepy … your eyes are getting heavy, tired, and they want to close … just let them close, NOW … going deeper into a deep, deep sense of relaxation … let yourself float down, even deeper, still …” and then some suggestions about stopping smoking or losing weight, or some other habit interruption and Continue Reading
The Really Big Ones …
Important Decisions ... You only make a few really important decisions in your whole life, the ones that are life changing. Most people think they make important decisions every year, or month, or week ... or even every day. Some really self obsessed folks think they make really important decisions every hour! The reality is that most decisions have a very limited half-life, i.e.: the amount of time that decision lingers until you can make another decision that changes whatever happened as a result of the previous decision. The simple reality is that virtually all decisions have a half-life of some kind, meaning they can be changed or even completely reversed as though they never happened at all. Even getting a tattoo isn't a permanent decision, but for now removing a finger would be, although even that decision leaves you with prosthetic options. So when you think about it the only really big decisions, the important ones, are the ones that ripple out in space and Continue Reading
Profane Coaching:101
pro·fane - prəˈfān, verb: grossly irreverent toward what is held to be sacred. Coaching often tries to present itself in one of two ways by many of the major practitioners of the craft … Socratic - very mild, gentle and nurturing, as the ultimate helping intervention that never interferes with the personal process of the individual being coached by adding anything or offering anything to them that they haven’t presented first themselves. Serious - very precise, impactful and professional, as a way to awaken and access higher levels of performance and especially interpersonal performance for executives, entrepreneurs, professionals and anyone seeking to lead others in any way. Okay, let’s agree … those are two ways to consider coaching, and perfectly valid ones at that. Let’s also agree that it wouldn’t be too hard to find training or mentoring as a coach following one of those two paths either. Now let’s set both of those ways of presenting coaching aside completely Continue Reading
